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Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Interesting Thoughts


A student of mine sent this in an email, and I thought it so clever and true! I thought I'd share it here for all of you. Hope you enjoy. The email was called, "Interesting thoughts."


1] Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble, but it is a 
"steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout.

2] Why is a car's windshield so large and the rear view mirror so small? 
Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE.  So, look ahead and move on.

3] Friendship is like a book.  It takes a few seconds to burn, but it takes 
years to write.

4] All things in life are temporary.  If life is going well enjoy it; it will 
not last forever. If it is going wrong don't worry, it won't last long either.

5] Old Friends are gold!  New Friends are diamond! If you get a diamond, don't 
forget the gold! Because to hold a diamond, you always need a base of gold!

6]  Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from above 
and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!

7] When GOD solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities; when GOD 
doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities.

8] A blind person asked God, "Can there be anything  worse than losing eye 
sight?" He replied: "Yes, losing your vision!"

9] When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them, and 
sometimes,when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you.

10] WORRYING does not take away tomorrow's troubles; it takes away today's 
peace.










Friday, February 18, 2011


This is a series of questions asked by Tess Marshall and posted on her blog, www.theboldlife.com.  Wonderful questions that really made me think.  I present them here with the hope that they might stimulate some of your own pondering too.  You'll notice that Tess makes comments throughout, which I so appreciate.  See what you think.

Tell us about your new book, The Loving Heart, and how we would benefit from it.
I wrote The Loving Heart: Navigating the Journey from Conflict to Peace, to provide my readers with a more peaceful perspective on themselves, their world and each other. 
The benefits include: 
Increased self-esteem
Improved capacity to connect with others
Increased ability to transcend illness, loss, divorce, or any  other life challenge
Decreased depression, anxiety, fear and anger
Increased ability to forgive
Augmented creativity and motivation
Increased empowerment
The Bold Life:
What I like about, The Loving Heart, is the opportunity to learn through experience. Laurie provides, questions, guided meditations, prayers, stories and examples through, out giving us the opportunity and direction to immediately apply what we learn.
What do you mean by ancient psycho-spiritual principles?
To me, ancient psycho-spiritual principles are core tools that have been passed down for generations and generations which have proven themselves to bring about comfort, joy and peaceful living; i.e. greater mastery over life. 
"Psycho” pertains to the mind and “spiritual” pertains to Divine Spirit, the source from which we have come. So these are “mental tools” which we can learn to use with the help of our higher, wiser self or “Divine Spirit.”
The Bold Life: When applying these core tools to guide our own human nature, we have the ability to remain calm and peaceful in our turbulent world. That's powerful!
What do you consider to be the single most powerful tool or technique that you use and teach?
The most powerful tool that I use and teach is “Mindfulness.” We can use it in a formal meditation practice or informally all day long. 
For me, to be aware of  what we are thinking in a non-judgmental way, is an absolute necessity for self-transformation. My experience has shown me that our thoughts and beliefs create our feelings and that many of us have been “programmed” in  “fear-based” thinking. 
I believe that our core essence is that of love, and that only “love-based” thinking will bring about the peacefulness we desire. As we become aware of our fear-based beliefs (with total acceptance of them) and learn to choose love-based ones, we can move into that place of peace and harmony.
The Bold Life:
I agree, the key is to be non-judgmental as we recognize our fear based thinking. It's a wonderful gift to know that we are "love" and to return to the state of love is as simple as choosing a "different and loving thought."
You began your self-transformational journey 35 years ago. Who was your first teacher?
Thirty years ago, I had a nervous breakdown, which was the beginning of my spiritual journey.  Looking back, although it was a most challenging time in  my life, it led me to question everything I believed about life.  
During the next 3 years, I read voraciously, anything I could, about spirituality and many  authors became my friends during that time.  But my first real live teacher came in the form of a lay minister who was my “Course in Miracles” instructor. It was through his vision and love that I came to understand  my purpose and my path.  
This led to the study of Attitudinal Healing with Gerald Jampolsky MD, who became my first well-known teacher. Jerry, as we knew him, is now 81 and still a friend to me. I am honored to know this gentle, wise man, and to have learned from him was an enormous gift.
The Bold Life:
I continue to recommend Jerry's books, Love is Letting Go of Fear andTeach Only Love. What a life of service that man has led!What a wonderful teacher and friend you have had.

What is one unexpected thing that has happened to you in the last year?
One unexpected thing that has happened to me in the last year is that my mother  has needed me much more than usual.  My mom is 84 and living with her companion, Ray, of many years. Ray was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years ago, but was doing fairly well with it. In the last year, he has gone downhill enough that my mom has had to struggle with what to do. 
I’ve learned much about elderly health care insurance, and how to proceed with a 90 year old Alzheimer’s patient. What has stood out for me is how this is a  step-by-step process that requires much discussion, thought and tuning into my mother’s needs as well as her desires in any given moment.  
These needs and desires continually change, sometimes from day to day. And her  emotional roller coaster is somewhat of a challenge for her and all members of our family. But it’s fascinating to watch her process and what she feels capable of today as opposed to 12 months ago. To observe the process   leading toward acceptance (for her) is quite intriguing, and renews my faith that we all can eventually come to grips with a difficult situation.
The Bold Life:
Your mom has been blessed to have a loving and caring daughter like you. You're sons are learning from you and will offer you the same understanding and care if and when you need it. Isn't life grand?
How do you spend your free time? 
My main love in life is my family. I have always loved children, and I am now so fortunate to have an 18 month-old granddaughter. As I had 2 sons, this is new and wonderful for me. In my free time, I talk to “Aya” on the computer, as they live far away. But they are moving back to live close to my husband and me, and I can hardly contain my excitement. I hope to spend more of my free time with her in the next few years. 
Other than my family, I love be out in nature. I walk and bike as much as I can, all year around, even though I’m in Michigan.  Nature soothes me, renews me, energizes me, and balances me. The trees are my friends and the best listeners!
The Bold Life:
Technology has allowed loved ones to stay close regardless of any geographical distance. It makes me wonder what Aya will be doing with her distant relatives when she is grown up!
Tell us something nobody knows about you. 
When people interface with me, the main impression I give them is that I’m spunky, friendly, put together, energetic, and just naturally happy. People are surprised to find that I’ve struggled in any way. But I’ve had to work at happiness and peace, and I’ve finally told my story in my book. 
There are stories about myself that I tell in the book that I didn’t talk about too much for many years. I had to let go of a lot of shame, fear and guilt. And I continually work on this.  However, I feel so fortunate now to have learned all that I have and I am hoping that I can pass on the knowledge I’ve been so  lucky to receive. 
The Bold Life:
I think the temptation to "glamorize" the lives of others, is ego based, causing separation instead of unity or oneness. A good example, is how our culture is obsessed with Hollywood stars. They appear to have it all. Yet if you put my ordinary life in a magazine and circulated it in a third world country, I would appear that way as well.
Like you said earlier our core essence is love. Nothing else matters. When all minds join together and recognize this, nothing will ever separate us again. The rest is the illusion.
Laurie, I can't even imagine the number of people you have touched over the last 20 years with your wisdom. I remember reading your column in that Detroit magazine. It was one of my favorites. 
Thank you for giving us the tools to create peace and happiness in our own lives. I want to end with this excerpt from The Loving Heart:
"The Universe provides us with situations that cause us to suffer enough discomfort that we may feel "forced" to grow toward greater peacefulness. That is how evolution operates.
If we are passive and hide from ourselves, waiting for the Universe to push us, the pain we experience may be worse than the pain we feel if we allow ourselves to consciously choose to work on inner transformation.
If we keep on hiding in spite of our discomfort, we may experience serious disease both mentally and physically.
If we consciously commit ourselves to the process, however, our "gullies" may be shallower and our climb less severe.
Even if we struggle through our growth process with disease, we will reap the incredible rewards of our labor by experiencing periods of grace, gratitude, and wisdom known only to those on a conscious path." -Dr. Laurie Pappas

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

The Law of Attraction and Service


This article was written by Penny Golden from the Body, Mind, Spirit Guide.  It so captures my thoughts about SERVICE!  To serve is a choice we can make everyday. There are so many people in need out there.  But service can be as simple as making a phone call to acknowledge someone who needs it, or smiling at someone who looks sad, angry or irritable.  Everyday there are hundreds of opportunities to serve someone.  Just look around and you'll find them.  If it's inner peace and happiness you're after, just give, give, give.  It will help someone else.  It will help you!



The key to the law of Attraction is SERVICE!

Have you been trying to activate the law of attraction in your life with little luck?
Try this proven method..... 8 hours of true service..... true service is when you are focused  entirely on the person you are serving or the job at hand. When you use all your talants, energy and focus toward a good cause...... you can attract anything you need. 

For those that say… I have no job or work or place or person to serve……

There is need everywhere ……
Every person you meet has need, use your strong healthy body to take out the trash for the neighbors, shovel their snow, drive to the grocery store and carry out bags, any honest work is good work, serve where you are, serve where you can.

Use your mind to mentor a child, teach people to read, use your strong communication skills to write resumes for the unemployed, sit and listen to someone in a coffee shop. Give them the gift of knowing that they live in a world that is filled with caring, giving, loving people.

Work for a small business owner for under pay to help them get established, the bigger job will come along when you are ready to truly serve it.
Give a smile to a stranger…don’t try to add up the cost of a smile, that would be like counting the air you breathe, breath in, breath out, try to breath in more than you put out and you will be out of balance.

So it is with service, serve 8 hours a day, play 8 hours a day, rest 8 hours a day…..
Service is your giving and so it is given back to you, and your life becomes full, it has meaning and purpose and all your needs are met…
You stop asking others to be of service to you because you are so strong and your cup is running over with love and money and joy and all the things you delight in…
You understand that the law of attraction is nothing without the law of service…

You practice it and you preach it, you’ve learned it and now you live it and life is GOOD!
So it is the law of service…… try it, you’ll like it!



Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Fear at root of negative behavior (posted on Michael Toebe's website blog at:  www.behaviorandrelationships.com

What is at the core of our decisions to act in counterproductive ways?

Is it just a instinctual reactionary moment? Is it a prolonged, unresolved bad attitude?

Laurie Pappas says, plain and simple, it's bad behavior driven by fear.

Pappas, a counselor and life coach in Franklin, Mich. and co-founder of the of the Metro Detroit Center for Attitudinal Healing at Loving Heart, says in her book The Loving Heart: Navigating the Journey from Conflict to Peace that to bring more love and its' benefits into our lives we need to manage or cut out fear. If we fail or refuse to do such, well...I let her tell you the rest.

Laurie Pappas
We, as human beings, either exist in a state of fear or a state of love.  

Fear underlies every negative emotion you can think of.  Our natural state is one that of love or everything positive. 

Aspects of fear might be frustration, anger, rage, anxiety, disappointment etc.  

When a person is experiencing any negative emotion, if we look hard enough, we will find fear of something - fear of success, failure, being alone, having enough money, not being good enough, death, etc.  

If someone is exhibiting anger or apathy or disappointment, any of these fears or others will be present underneath. 

One reason someone might manifest anger instead of the real fear underneath is because it is too uncomfortable to look at the real fear.  So they choose a less uncomfortable emotion.

Loving is something that we all want - to love and be loved; to feel connected, which is what love does.  It is our natural essence and the only reason that we don't experience it at all times is that it is covered up by the many fears we have as human beings.  So by acknowledging, expressing, and healing our fears, we can access that "love" quality deep inside.  

By healing fears we come to perceive our world, ourselves and each other differently; those ‘ah ha’ moments that resonate deeply inside of all of us and bring us greater wisdom about who we are and what we're all about.  If our natural state of being were not blocked by fear, we would all be reaching out to each other, supporting one another, helping each other to help the world.  

Adversity is an incredible opportunity to learn - to go inside of ourselves and find greater truth. Many people, after having gone through something quite challenging, see everything differently - often in a wiser, kinder more compassionate way.  
For example, if someone has never been gravely ill, they may not be able to relate to someone who is care for them in an effective way.  However, after a grave illness, someone can appreciate what that's like and is more willing to offer aid.

Principles and Guidelines of Attitudinal Healing


 Estelle Seltzer is a member of our loving heart connection group on Facebook.  She has written this poem about Attitudinal Healing.  Hope you enjoy.



                   The Principles & Guidelines of Attitudinal Healing


                  The principles and guidelines of Attitudinal Healing
                  Are very much the same
                  Overlapping in their meaning
                  Makes for a fun and interesting game
                  Of attempting different interpretations
                  From the Attitudinal Healing group
                  Not giving advice but sharing examples
                  While staying within the loop
                  Remember we are students and teachers to one another
                  Being interchangeable we receive and we give
                  The message we always want to convey is
                  Having inner peace is the only way to live
                  Being able to maintain our well being means living in the now
                  The principles and guidelines of Attitudinal Healing
                  Have the tools to show you how
                  Make a habit of practicing the principles & guidelines
                  And in a very short time you will see
                  The benefits of experiencing inner peace
                  Remember Attitudinal Healing is the key

                                                      Estelle Seltzer
                                                      5-30-09